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Oct 14, 2023Creating vs. consuming: two ways to spend your lifetimeI worked through my own vacation and realized creating brings me more joy than consuming.Aug 20, 2023How I deal with difficult conversationsCrucial conversations fail when people feel unsafe — restore safety and almost anything can be said.Jul 29, 2023More Than Just ‘Hola’: My Plan to Learn Spanish for a Greener FutureWhy my e-methanol startup made me commit to fluent Spanish, starting from zero words.Jul 22, 2023Changing your behavior won’t solve the climate crisis — why & what actually solves itMost emissions sit far beyond individual choices; only scaled climate technologies can remove them.Jul 9, 2023How it Feels like Being an Early-Stage Startup FounderIt's a trailblazer's trek — isolating, heavy with responsibility, and still exhilaratingly free at every step.Jun 17, 2023My trip to Paris – a story of resilienceViva Tech went wrong in every way — reframing, iterating, and humor kept me pitching investors.May 20, 2023Transforming into a great CEO – my first coaching sessionsI hired three coaches because the CEO ICODOS needs in five years doesn't exist yet.May 6, 2023Being sickTwenty meetings with a fever reminded me why I protect my health when I have it.Apr 29, 2023Last-Minute Trip: Startup Glory or Waste of Time?I flew to Madrid overnight for a pitch we lost — the expected value still made it right.Apr 15, 2023Recipe for a happy and fulfilled lifeIt is just you versus you — small improvements daily, gigantic ambitions for the decade.Apr 9, 2023How I Find Joy in the Entrepreneurial JourneyFounding my startup fulfilled a dream, yet happiness lives in the pursuit of goals, not their achievement.Mar 19, 2023The art of dealing with negativity: my unconventional approachI resolve issues fast and confine the rest to one reflection a week — even if it makes me harder to read.Mar 4, 2023Almost every failed startup has a product but lacks tractionTraction deserves half the founding team's attention — product alone never saved a startup.Feb 25, 2023Consulting taught me how to achieve even my biggest dreamBreaking huge problems into small ones gave me the confidence to skip the MBA and start now.Feb 18, 2023From Mediocre to Great – How to Achieve Greatness in WorkGreat work starts with owning the outcome and knowing exactly whose needs it must serve.Feb 11, 2023From Complaints to Commitment: The Power of Effective FeedbackNine in ten of my friends complain about leaders who can't give, receive, or appreciate feedback.Jan 22, 2023Assertiveness: The key to the best possible lifeA bouncer broke my phone; staying calm and refusing to back down got it paid for.Jan 15, 20233 new habits I test in 2023Box breathing, weekend priorities, and a nightly question about how I actually came across.Jan 8, 2023How serial entrepreneurs make decisionsExpert founders don't hunt for perfect experts — they socialize problems and let committed stakeholders self-select.

2022

Dec 11, 2022Talking shit about a bad situation is fun, but…Venting relieves tension for a moment; framing challenges as growth builds the resilience that lasts.Nov 27, 2022The most important question to askEverything worth having comes at a cost — decide which pain you are willing to sustain and drop the rest.Nov 20, 2022Talk less to convey moreOverexplaining, underpreparing, and missing the point are the three habits that keep us from being concise.Nov 14, 2022How to achieve the most annoying tasksI eat the frog first thing each morning, aiming for one tangible outcome per session.Nov 6, 2022Socialize your problemMention your current problem in every conversation — someone has usually already solved it for you.Oct 30, 2022The learnings from the past weeks are clearSeven intense weeks taught me you cannot have it all — if you don't rest, your body makes you.Oct 16, 2022Cheering for people you don’t likeI compete only against my best self, so anyone else's win costs me nothing.Sep 25, 2022You have to receive feedback – here’s how you get itQuality feedback rarely arrives on its own — ask for it, narrow it, and give it back.Sep 18, 2022As much as I love it: this situation is challengingNever stress about what you cannot control — embrace the challenge and enjoy the ride.Sep 11, 2022From start to end I wished it to endA recruiter's unprepared 20-minute call showed me why every meeting deserves five minutes of preparation.ca. 2022How to better say noPostpone the decision, sandwich the refusal between two yeses, keep reasons short, and repeat yourself.Aug 28, 2022Learning How to LearnFocused attention, basic understanding, and practice that simulates the real test build lasting knowledge.Aug 13, 2022Asking for help - how to get what you wantAlways ask for help — but the more concrete and personalized the request, the better.Aug 7, 2022How you can solve every problemHypothesize the solution first, then gather only the data that proves or disproves it.Jul 30, 2022An entrepreneur who makes money from students’ existential fearsA reputation takes decades to build and minutes to destroy; short-term greed rarely survives scrutiny.Jul 24, 2022How people achieve extraordinary successOutliers are built by cumulative advantage, not talent — so socialize your vision and ask for help.Jul 10, 2022Boost your productivity by making use of agile methodsShort sprints and honest retrospectives beat detailed plans when the problem is complex and unfamiliar.Jun 26, 2022How to better deal with fear of missing outTime is the scarce resource, not events — every great party will happen again.Jun 19, 2022How to get people to listen when you speakPresence comes from purpose, clarity, and authenticity: say nothing without intending to deliver it.Jun 11, 2022Your definition of success can change your lifeBorrowed definitions of success make us miserable — mine had to be anchored in a why.ca. 2022Work hard, play hard – how to find the right balanceI burned out running on caffeine and three hours of sleep — rest is what makes hard work sustainable.May 22, 2022A transformational leadership experienceAn inclusive environment is what turns a diverse group's potential into actual learning.May 15, 2022How to make work most enjoyableA sense of accomplishment, not salary, is what makes demanding weeks feel joyful.May 8, 2022How to work at an elite levelDistraction-free deep work is the increasingly rare skill that lets you master hard things fast.May 1, 2022How to properly design habitsPick a reliable trigger and a consistent reward, and the behavior stops needing willpower.Apr 24, 2022A life without regrets – how to find out what you want from lifeClarity fuels ambition — picture your ideal normal day ten years out and work backwards.Apr 17, 2022How to stay calm in stressful situationsWhen panic hits, I ask whether stressing helps, write down the answer, and act on it.Apr 10, 2022Why I am happy working long hoursMy weeks look like work-work balance — purpose makes those hours the most meaningful ones I have.Apr 3, 2022Reliability matters — how to become more reliableI missed a meeting I cared about — reliability is respect for other people's time.Mar 27, 2022Learning something new – what an incredible journey so farWork turns us into experts who stop learning — people, podcasts, and practice restart the curiosity.Mar 20, 2022What makes for a dream job?Forget following your passion — six evidence-based factors predict job satisfaction far better.Mar 13, 2022Without this mindset you won’t climb the career ladderPromotions follow proof — end-to-end ownership means acting like the company owner before anyone asks you to.Mar 6, 2022Using the pyramid principle can incredibly improve your communicationLead with the core message, then two or three arguments, then evidence — and know when not to.Feb 27, 2022This simple trick significantly increased my productivityNoise-canceling headphones cut distractions better than anything else I tried — deep focus only lasts four hours anyway.Feb 20, 2022I learned the hard way what it means to not have the trust of othersTrust splits into practical and emotional — met expectations, empathy, sound logic, and authenticity build both.Feb 13, 2022A quality all millionaires have in commonDecisiveness is a learnable skill, and not deciding is usually the worst decision of all.Feb 6, 2022A skill everyone has to learnLife is a series of negotiations, and I practice every time I get the chance.Jan 30, 2022Today a new chapter has begunMoving in with my girlfriend taught me to ask instead of assume — and to prefer solutions over being right.Jan 23, 2022This technique increases my learnings by 10xA layered reflection routine turns my consulting work into compounding lessons I can actually build on.Jan 16, 2022This realization can change your life – finite vs infinite gamesCareers and health have no finish line — treating them as winnable games makes us unhappy.Jan 9, 2022Why brilliant teachers teach the worstThe curse of knowledge makes experts forget the struggle of learning — a novelty index preserves it.Jan 2, 2022New Year’s resolutions – how you can achieve all of themResolutions stick when they are concrete, backed by next actions, and framed as process goals.

2021

Dec 19, 2021Make better decisions by thinking in probabilitiesPerfect decisions exist only in hindsight — estimate the odds, weigh expected outcomes, then commit.Dec 12, 2021Vaccination – why making this decision is so clear to meMy values made a polarizing choice simple: risk appetite, trust in technology, and long-term thinking.Dec 5, 2021Be persistent and convince anybodyRejection is rarely about you — ask why, address the real reason, and try again.Nov 28, 2021Self-belief — and how to strengthen itI used to doubt everything — small goals and little wins built the conviction that carries me.Nov 21, 2021How to stop overstressing and perform betterWorking harder when stressed backfires — rest, health, and reframing keep pressure productive.Nov 14, 2021Master the skill of prioritizationTime, energy, and attention are scarce — value comes from choosing and communicating what matters most.Nov 7, 2021I asked for feedback and it changed my lifeRegularly asking, listening without defending, and acting on the answer is the fastest way I know to grow.Oct 31, 2021How to best deal with highs and lows in lifeHappiness always drifts back to baseline — savoring stretches the highs and softens the inevitable lows.Oct 24, 2021Find your strengths and focus on themWe’re raised on weakness-based feedback — differentiation comes from building what we’re already good at.Oct 10, 2021How to find the ideal place to workCulture beats pay — define what you need, then ask insiders before committing to an employer.Oct 3, 2021How to wake up fully motivatedWhat made me love Mondays: knowing what tomorrow holds, a routine I enjoy, and a strong why.Sep 26, 2021How to better manage expectationsNever assume, over-communicate, and under-promise — most disappointment starts with expectations nobody spoke out loud.Sep 19, 2021How to become more persistent and achieve your goalsPerformance is talent multiplied by persistence — an obsessive goal, an adaptable plan, and unshakable faith.Sep 12, 202110 signs of personal growth – how to avoid getting stuckGrowth isn't inherently good; I'd rather choose my problems than let life pick them for me.Sep 5, 2021How to deal with unfortunate incidents (bad luck)When my bike got wrecked, asking how a role model would cope beat getting angry.Aug 29, 2021The limits of self-improvementI aspire to never be satisfied, but time and energy are finite — the why behind improvement matters.Aug 22, 2021Make better decisions – the negligence of alternativesAlternative blindness makes us weigh one option against the status quo and miss everything in between.Aug 15, 2021A habit that changed my lifeWhenever I feel afraid of something, I force myself to do it as fast as possible.Aug 9, 2021Ownership – a key skill to developConsulting taught me that ownership means being trusted to deliver — no blaming, no waiting, no overpromising.Aug 1, 2021How to give your best to your lifeDoing my utmost means being fully present in each moment — judged by effort, not results.Jul 25, 2021My learnings from optimizing caffeine intake for 1 yearTwo cups before lunch and one caffeine-free day a week keep the drug working for me.Jul 18, 2021Why mindset mattersI once believed success needed talent and luck — adopting a growth mindset taught me otherwise.Jul 11, 2021Feeling too dumb to speak up? How to deal with it and change your perspectiveThe sense of being the dumbest in the room is a comparison error — your perspective still counts.Jul 4, 20213 tips for immense personal growthThe sweet spot for growth lies in just-manageable tasks, honest feedback, and regular reflection.Jun 27, 2021What I love about my jobSix months into consulting, the people matter most — and purpose and health decide whether a job is right.ca. 20213 tips to withstand high pressureA brain dump, honest priorities, and self-care turn crushing pressure into something workable.Jun 13, 2021How to become more consistentWe overestimate what a few weeks can do and underestimate what ten years of persistence delivers.Jun 6, 2021How to actually solve your problems by thinking outside the boxCreativity starts by making the box visible — name your implicit assumptions before pushing past them.May 30, 2021Greatly increase your productivity – harness the 80/20 ruleFind the two activities that truly drive your results, then eliminate, automate, or pause the rest.May 23, 2021How to better deal with stress and grow fasterStress mainly harms those who believe it does — embrace acute strain and recover deliberately.May 16, 2021How to boost your learning curve: From challenges to learning opportunitiesDiscomfort often signals a safe chance to grow — spot it, weigh the long-term benefit, act fast.May 9, 2021Stop having expectations of other peopleNobody is in this world to live up to your standards — state your wishes instead of assuming.May 2, 2021Live a better life – fall in love with solving problemsThere is no problem-free life — happiness means trading bad problems for ones worth solving.Apr 25, 2021Gratefulness – a secret weapon to a happy lifePracticing gratitude is my counter to hedonic adaptation — the mind's habit of dulling every win.Apr 18, 2021Easier and better decisions – how to deal with riskWhy loss aversion paralyzes us, and how quantifying outcomes helped me decide on eye surgery.ca. 2021Mindset matters: How to start something newLearning to inline skate reminded me: at first the easy things are hard, so set process goals.ca. 20218 signs of true self-confidenceConfidence built on external validation is fragile; the real kind lets you admit your weaknesses.Mar 28, 2021How to harness positive emotions to live a better lifeFear of rejection starves us of joy — honesty, appreciation, and a smile bring it back.Mar 21, 2021How a simple rule can boost your productivityIf a task takes two minutes or less, do it immediately — but only within your priorities.Mar 14, 2021How to make better decisionsClear personal principles freed me from decision paralysis — I judge every choice by long-term happiness.Mar 7, 2021How a lack of positive thinking hurts my well-beingA month of low energy traced back to one cause — I had stopped choosing optimism.Feb 28, 2021Do more and do better – the importance of breaks and restControlled, scheduled pauses are a performance tool, not laziness — how I sustained 80-hour study weeks.Feb 21, 2021Focus on things you can control, ignore the restAn unfair teacher taught me to own my reactions instead of blaming what I couldn't change.Feb 14, 2021How to make stress your secret weaponStress I load on myself makes me sharper — health, rest, and purpose keep it from turning chronic.Feb 7, 2021Always determine the next stepIdeas die without an owner — every meeting should end with a next action assigned.Jan 31, 2021Why and how I always take notesListening alone stores almost nothing — a notebook in every meeting forces the engagement that makes knowledge stick.Jan 17, 2021Say yes to great opportunities (how & why)When in doubt I say yes — my 80-year-old self regrets missed chances more than failures.Jan 3, 2021How to determine what really matters to youThe pandemic taught me that cutting something out is the surest way to learn its value.

2020

Dec 27, 2020How to convince people – never hesitate to admit a mistakeOwning your errors fast builds trust — sometimes an apology wins even when you were right.Dec 20, 2020Set process goals – make your ambitions a realityOutcome goals depend on factors you can't control — goals built on daily actions guarantee progress.Dec 13, 2020Transform your life – make more conscious decisionsMost choices happen on autopilot — long-term thinking and clear values turn daily seeds into a better future.ca. 2020Become a top performer – fall in love with the processTop performers show up through the boredom because they love the daily practice, not the outcome.ca. 2020Become outstanding – learn to work when work isn’t easyWhat separates high achievers is the ability to keep working when motivation is at rock bottom.Nov 22, 2020You must learn to say noA reluctant yes costs more than an honest no — boundaries make room for what matters.Nov 15, 2020Never give unsolicited advice & what to do insteadPeople want to be heard, not fixed — ask what would help before offering solutions.Nov 8, 2020How to really boost your happinessBuy experiences over stuff, choose time over money, and be kind daily — the levers the evidence supports.Nov 1, 2020Want to really support your loved ones? Just do itOffered help almost never gets accepted — real support means doing the favor without waiting to be asked.Oct 25, 2020How a definition can change your lifeSociety's metrics of success are poison — I measure mine by the impact my actions have.Oct 18, 2020Utilize the power of communityPeople genuinely love helping — asking for support and giving without keeping score multiplies what you can achieve.Oct 11, 2020Grow personally by measuring your lifeWhat you track, you improve — a rough proxy and three metrics create the awareness that matters.Oct 4, 2020Why you are less happy than you could beWe miswant — shifting reference points and constant comparison mean achievements barely move our happiness.Sep 28, 2020How reading has changed my lifeBooks alone change nothing — I write three to-dos after every one to put it into practice.Sep 20, 2020Harness clarity — achieve your goals and become more productiveVague to-dos make the brain say no — break every task into small, concrete pieces.Sep 13, 2020How to set priorities & get more out of your timeNobody lacks time — we just avoid admitting that some things don't matter enough to us.ca. 2020Give without expecting something in returnNo expectations means no disappointment — I give kindness freely but guard my time and money.Aug 30, 2020Why integrity is crucial — and how to build itHow you do anything is how you do everything — consistent standards buy trust and peace of mind.Aug 23, 2020For every setback there is a comebackSeven consulting rejections led me to SAP — failure is only final if you stay down.Aug 16, 2020Interdependence in Relationships – a Success FactorThe strongest couples are two self-sufficient people who choose each other, not two halves filling holes.Aug 9, 2020Self-control — and how to improve itSelf-control predicts life success as strongly as intelligence — and habits make discipline nearly effortless.Aug 2, 2020Stop needing to be rightWinning an argument usually just means the other person stopped debating — conceding feels better.Jul 26, 2020The happiness equation – keep joy, fun, and pleasure in balancePleasure can be bought but joy has to be earned — a happy life needs deliberate doses of both.Jul 19, 2020Reduce distractions, increase productivityThe phone in another room, single-tasking, and taming interruptions buy back hours of focus.Jul 12, 2020Create the life you dream of – harness a five-year planYou can't plan happiness, but a five-year plan shrinks what makes you unhappy.Jul 5, 2020Uncertainty – how to deal with itUncertainty is a feeling, not a fact — worst-case thinking and borrowed experience turn it into energy.Jun 28, 2020Envy – how to deal with itExamine the desire, ask if you would pay the price, then go get it or accept it.Jun 21, 2020The importance of listening wellMaking others feel heard decides relationships and careers, yet it is the least trained communication skill.Jun 14, 2020The Surprising Benefits of JournalingTwo minutes of writing each night turned into ideas, perspective, and most of my achievements.Jun 7, 2020Focus on quality instead of quantityNothing in large amounts makes you happy — except at the start, when volume beats polish.Jun 1, 2020Why showing vulnerability is a real strengthDropping the armor and risking rejection is what creates depth in every relationship.ca. 2020Influencing others – how to better persuade and convince peopleHead, heart, or hands — pick the tactic that fits the person, prepare well, and persist.May 17, 2020Forget about perfection! Focus on progression and compound improvementsOne percent better a day, compounded, is 3800 percent a year — consistency beats chasing ideals.May 10, 2020Empathy — its importance and powerListening without judging or fixing is a skill anyone can build — and every relationship needs.May 3, 2020Failure – how to deal with it?I failed my GMAT after four months of prep — how I turned it into a lesson.Apr 26, 2020Consistency – why is it essential for success?Success is small efforts repeated daily — we overestimate weeks and underestimate a decade.ca. 2020Why I always write down ideas immediately & how it’s changed my lifeThe brain generates ideas but can't store them — capturing every thought and reviewing them built my projects.Apr 12, 2020Why to always have a smile on your faceEven a forced grin lifts my mood, feeds gratitude, and opens conversations with strangers.Apr 5, 2020How to add more variety to life?Novelty in two of three categories — places, people, activities — keeps a routine-driven life vibrant.Mar 29, 2020How to have more meaningful conversationsGenuine curiosity, asking why, and sharing small vulnerabilities turn small talk into real connection.Mar 22, 2020How to deal with the chaosThree principles for a pandemic: stay calm, protect the weakest, and respect the rules.Mar 22, 2020How to stay productive in chaotic times (COVID-19 Crisis)Box your worries into fixed daily slots, keep a routine, and turn isolation into an opportunity.Mar 1, 2020Why reflection is so importantExperience alone teaches little — my reflection routines turn it into happiness, ideas, and faster learning.Feb 23, 2020Why great things take timeOvernight success hides thousands of hours — the real question is whether you'll pay the price.Feb 16, 2020Never regret anything – how to guide your decisionsSkipping Bethlehem taught me to test choices against the regret I’d feel in 80 years.Feb 9, 2020How to deal with a lack of motivationWhen GMAT drills wore me down, going back to my why restored the drive.Feb 2, 2020Long-term patience – key for your successGreat things come from small daily efforts — sprint in the moment, stay calm for years.Jan 26, 2020Why relationships are so importantI ditched a packed to-do list for a friend's weekend — success means nothing without people to share it.Jan 19, 2020How to deal better with criticismSeven steps from defensive reflex to useful conversation — breathe, find agreement, and never justify yourself.Jan 12, 2020Cuba – what I should have knownCuba rewards low expectations and hard preparation — I arrived with neither.ca. 2020Late? A plan does not work out? Why I won’t stress myself any morePlanning is freedom, but when things collapse, accepting the situation beats losing my mind over it.

2019

Dec 23, 2019Semester abroad – what to know before you goLanguage gains, local friendships, and great trips abroad all demand deliberate effort — I learned that the hard way.Dec 16, 20191 year of cold showers – not what I was expectingThe promised health benefits never showed up — the discipline and gratitude did.Dec 8, 2019Health is the most important need for us human beingsInvesting in your body works like a pension — small daily habits pay off decades later.Dec 2, 20193 reasons why openness pays offCuriosity has brought me friendships, knowledge, and opportunities I would otherwise have walked past.Nov 25, 2019How to improve your sleep – 6 tipsA fixed schedule, a cool quiet room, and no caffeine after 3 pm do most of the work.Nov 17, 2019How to get the most out of your dayThree habits: wake to an alarm every day, plan three vital tasks, schedule each morning.Nov 11, 2019How to become more optimisticOptimism can be trained — watch your inner dialogue and stop downplaying your wins.Nov 5, 20193 reasons why I love being an optimistBelieving you can master a challenge quietly raises the odds that you will.Oct 29, 2019How you say something matters a lotI hurt a friend not with what I said but with the tone I said it in.Oct 22, 2019How quitting video games changed my life for the betterNearly crying over lost games made me decide everything I do regularly must carry a purpose.Oct 14, 2019Why I always wake up at 7 amA fixed wake-up time only works with something worth waking for — naps cover the short nights.Oct 14, 2019Why video calls are awesomeOne spontaneous call from a friend showed me how much more personal video feels than audio.Oct 7, 2019Why purpose is extremely importantThere is no universal meaning of life — choosing my own mission is what gives me energy.Oct 3, 2019Accomplish the most annoying task of the day firstThe dreaded chore only grows while it waits; doing it first thing frees the whole day.Oct 3, 2019Create not-to-do lists to change habitsWhat you stop doing determines what you can do — banning habits works better than listing them.Oct 3, 2019Do it with all your heartA half-hearted hello taught me to greet, thank, and say goodbye like I mean it.Oct 3, 2019Do not be afraid to make mistakes!How a failed deadline at my consulting job became a win, and why honest feedback matters.Oct 3, 2019Do not work away like mad — the power of schedulesA strict exam plan with built-in breaks and buffers gave me more calm, not less freedom.ca. 2019Don’t give up until you’ve even triedHow talking my way out of a non-refundable booking taught me to act before conceding defeat.ca. 2019Don’t hesitate when you are afraid to do somethingActing before my mind can invent worst-case scenarios is how I leave the comfort zone.ca. 2019Don’t try to impress but express yourself the best you can“Just be yourself” is useless advice — showing people who you genuinely are takes deliberate effort.Oct 3, 2019Hold yourself accountable for everything happening to youYou can't control what happens, but owning your response moves you from victim to driver's seat.Oct 3, 2019How to identify your strengths — and why you need to capitalize on themWhen the work fits you, the clock runs fast — three questions to find that job.Oct 3, 2019Just do itStart within 72 hours or the odds of ever starting collapse — there is no perfect moment.Oct 3, 2019Manage your energy levels not your timeTime is fixed, but energy from body, emotion, mind, and spirit can be grown.Oct 3, 2019Never satisfied, always gratefulDissatisfaction fuels my improvement while gratitude keeps me happy — the two are not opposites.Oct 3, 2019Success does not come overnightConsistency beats talent and luck — small daily decisions compound into what later looks like sudden success.Oct 3, 2019The power of marginal gainsOne-percent improvements compound — they took me from worst in class to best in school.ca. 2019How to get startedAccepting that my first tries will be bad is what lets me begin at all.Oct 1, 2019Start now and get perfect laterFeeling unready is the excuse I kept making — the perfect moment to begin never arrives.